Adopters

Hear from our Adopters

No one can explain the adoption process better than those who have experienced it first hand. Below are some real life stories from our adopters.

 

Jessica and Natalie* tell their story about how they created their family.

When we first discussed adoption, it wasn’t even legal for us to adopt as a couple. That was 12 years ago now and things have changed dramatically!

We started seriously looking into adoption in 2014 and decided to attend some information evenings hosted by a few voluntary agencies and our local authority. Adopt Together at Faith in Families were the first agency we visited and we were blown away.

We were initially concerned about them having their roots in the Catholic religion, given the church’s history with the LGBT community being difficult, but we needn’t have worried. We were treated exactly the same as everyone else and asked regularly if there was any more that we felt that they could do for us.

They have worked with us every single step of the way. We started the process in spring 2014 and within a year we were approved to adopt and bringing our children home.

When our children came home, things weren’t necessarily smooth but the quality of the training we received helped us to feel confident in our ability to parent them. When things got really hard, they stood up and fought for us so get our family the support and help that we needed. Faith in Families are always there for us and that support is unwavering.

They care about us, our children and our family. We are their focus; they are there to support us. Not just now but forever and we could not thank them enough for it.

There are still over 3,000 children waiting for loving homes. If you feel that you could adopt or would like to find out more, contact Faith in Families on 0115 9558811 or email enquiries@faithinfamilies.org

*Names have been changed to protect identities

Brother and sister in garden

 

We received this wonderful story from Lynne and Darren* who adopted their son through Faith in Families. They have kindly shared their experiences with us, but we have changed the names of those involved and some of the details in order to protect their privacy. This is written from Lynne’s perspective:

After several miscarriages, I couldn’t face trying again. I had always been interested in adoption but my husband had been less keen. When we arrived at Faith in Families’ First Thursday open evening in January, I didn’t know what to expect, but I was apprehensive. My husband can be shy and would feel awkward in a situation like this.

We needn’t have worried. I’ve rarely felt so welcomed. Each member of staff made sure they came and said hello. They were warm but also sensitive to how we might be feeling. This has continued throughout the process, from phone calls to letters. Every attempt has been made to make the process less overwhelming. Within months, we were approved adopters and a few months later we met our wonderful boy.

The matching process was challenging and very emotional. At the time, many of the children waiting to be adopted had additional needs and most adopters, including ourselves, decided that their needs were just too great. However, I felt constantly drawn back to these children who seemed to be waiting endlessly for forever homes.

We attended several events without success when our social worker suggested we go to an activity day for children with additional needs, as meeting these children would give us a better idea of the practicalities and see beyond their often overwhelming profiles that can deter you from finding out more.

Within minutes of arriving at the Adoption Activity Day, we had completely fallen in love with the boy who was to become our son. Yes, we had to make sure we could manage his needs and find out a lot more, but meeting and playing with him in person made it easier to imagine him in our lives.

We met with the health professionals involved in our boy’s life. This was vital to help us make a considered decision. Every effort was made to ensure we knew as much as we could about our son’s health needs. It was very important to Faith in Families that we weren’t rushing into anything blindly.

There were additional meetings to ensure we weren’t making the decision without thinking it through, but also lots of support. From pairing us with adoption buddies, who already had adopted children with additional needs, to support groups and websites. Faith in Families advocated for financial help for us and insisted that the health professionals involved started work on the transfers.

Since our boy has been placed with us, the support has felt like a steady stream. When we have asked for support for the smallest thing, Faith in Families have made it their mission to provide the advice or point us in the right direction.

We have our family and every moment is exhausting, wonderful, crazy and precious.

 

*Names have been changed to protect identities

 

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